heidiiiii Posted October 2, 2006 Share Posted October 2, 2006 Nat is whining and hinting and whining that she wants people over for her birthday. She wants another slumber party! Ewwwww! I miss certain aspects of it but these girls are getting older (and sneakier) and I think I am getting old. I dont wanna.. waaaahhhhh I really cant afford to go all out with some big party at some place. Plus we dont want a bunch of kids around the house cause we have so much work going on..I have a armoire in my diningroom for one! I wanted her 13th birthday (she will be teen) to be with the family...Dinner of her choice, movie or mall or casino game room, and she can then invite ONE friend to sleep over . That girl can come with us to do the stuff. I already have one teen but she is not a normal teen (meaning mall, clothes, boys, money), but I dont know how to work around the whining, nasty looks, slamming doors, I want what I want, when it comes to her birthday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlene Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 Whew! Glad my kids are adults now (or in their cases, semi-adult) B) I would suggest a quiet reasonable tone voice coupled with a nice sit-down chat about your point of view. However, realizing what a 13-yr-old can be like, I realize that's probably next to impossible Seriously, give her time to cool off and then sit her down and chat -- maybe 2 friends? Maybe a slumber party later on? As to the door slamming, I hate you, drop-dead right now looks, etc -- wish I could tell you how to handle that, but I never quite got the hang of it myself I will share with you that I held the title of the world's meanest mom for quite a while -- I wore my title proudly! -- and it sounds like you've now earned it. Congratulations -- I'm happy to pass it along! Hang in there, Heidi -- in ten years or so, you'll both get a good chuckle over it. B) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nuttiwebgal Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 wow how much are you having? love girls they can be relentless in getting their way. if you know how you want to do the B-day than just have dad tell her....we do it our way or no way dinner at home with cake. no friend. works better around here if daddy puts his foot down. but than sometimes she can get what she wants from daddy easier. I have no real advice but Im totally in your corner! nutti Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Missymew Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 I don't have kids (wish I did), but how about sitting down with her and telling her what your budget for her birthday is. Explain to her that adults live within budget parameters and often have to make tough decisions in fulfilling all of our wants. Ask her to help you plan her birthday with the dollars that you're willing to spend. Just my thoughts ... I could be way off on this. -Susanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anette Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 Hmm...I really can't give any advice because it wasn't too long ago that I was the whiny 13 yr. old. It was only....8 years ago. Maybe you guys can compromise. Good Luck Heidi! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peggi Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 Hang in Heidi--it can be so hard to be a parent and keep your foot down. But she might as well learn now, that you don't get everything you want and other people's needs have to be considered. As far as the whining and slamming doors try to ignore it, sometimes if they realize it doesn't bother you they stop. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Intrinsicat Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 My 8 year old just went to her first slumber party. She still trusts us enough to tell us everything. I was shocked to find out that one girl had a cell phone and around 6am they were making random prank calls on it! 8 year olds! I can't imagine what that parent's phone bill will be! At least now I have a story to fall back on now when my tyke starts begging for one. And I know if I ever parent a slumber party, the cell phone are being kept with ME. 8 years old, I can only imagine what happens at 13!! If you are firm on only one friend staying the night, make sure she realizes it is stone. After a bit of pouting and dramatic tantrums, she'll move on to what she can get out of plan b (aka, what can I soak mom for out of her guilt of not giving me plan A) Of course, I have no experience with teens yet so take that with a grain of salt. Right now I mostly use mirroring. If my daughter starts acting up I make a bigger scene than her. I'm not worried what anyone thinks of me, but SHE does! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heidiiiii Posted October 3, 2006 Author Share Posted October 3, 2006 We have had halloween slumber parties for 7 yrs now. I am tired. LOL The one last year was the last. I found out later that the girls were planning on waiting until we were asleep and sneaking out at 2am! Nat put the brakes on it and told them if they did that, my mom would call all of their parents and tell, and they would never get to come over again. I am very diplomatic but will also blast your booty if you step out of line. There are certain things you do not do....So we decided that enough was enough with the sleepovers with 6-8 teens to be. She is going to be 13 this year and we wanted it to be special. I even told her we would make the trip up to Salem, Mass the weekend of her b-day. She still said no.. Can you believe it? I can deal with being hated. LOL It only last for 5 yrs. It shows I am doing my job. Teens dont understand the concept of Mom`s money. They understand THEIR money, but mom`s moulah is infinite. It grows in the backyard, It mysteriously shows up every Friday to spend on her every whim..(so she thinks). Electricity, cable, food, mortgage, and heat are FREE! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hydroped Posted October 3, 2006 Share Posted October 3, 2006 I kinda like Suzanne's idea of explaining the birthday finances... then again she could probably argue that a slumber part is cheapest Wish I could help some but I've only had boys to deal with. My son and 2 nephews - I have no clue about what raising a girl must be like.. except that it's probably nerve wracking :lol2: -David Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heidiiiii Posted October 3, 2006 Author Share Posted October 3, 2006 David, they have heard the words NO MONEY so much in the past year that they think it is my mantra. Oamm No Money..Oamm No money..Oamm No money Fred and I decided..Dinner, movie, and fun zone at Mohegan Sun Casino...And I am getting her the Nintendo DS lite she wants. If she aint happy...I cant help her! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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